I was rambling through my drafts folder and found this post written last fall, never posted, and long neglected.
As autumn breezes always bring me home to roost, I thought I'd share some "home thoughts", starting with this post.
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I know exactly what Maria means when she writes about those sleek, fanciful home-living magazines:
"Often, I avoid looking at them lest it make my heart pine for those things and be ungrateful for what I have...."
Definition of Pining: to long for something or someone
Until last fall, I avoided these magazines least they feed the monster of envy that can bloat my stomach with discontent and disillusion. But last fall I indulged myself a bit or, rather, my husband indulged me. You see, we closed in our little carport (complete with the window seat of my dreams which has cozily become a nesting area for my younger girls) and I have given in to indulging myself in these very magazines. I now have a quaint little cottage room that I can keep neat and tidy even if the rest of the house is in the shambles of living.
It's just for a season really. And it's just one little room.
It still isn't complete, in more ways than one. The window space above the kitchen sink still needs to be cased in as does the doorway. There is a wasted space on the side of the window seat that needs to be closed off but can't because our house dog has taken up residence there in an attempt to find her own peaceful space. We have eked out some bare furnishings with a chair a friend was putting in her garage sale, a cabinet that belongs in the girls' room once we get around to putting down new flooring, and a table that is bearing down on twenty-plus years of family gatherings.
The room is a multi-faceted serving as a library/study during the day and a sitting room afterwards and on weekends. But it still doesn't have a name. Some of you may recall me nicknaming it my "hole-in-the-wall". That no longer fits and we're still in the futile attempt of naming the room.
For now when we must go into the room to place something, we say: "Could you go put this in the...in the...the...the room?"
"Would you mind setting this in the...in the...the...the room?"
"It's in the...in the...the...the room, honey."
It's rather frustrating. I don't want the...the...the room to be called this forever. I refuse to call it the dining room though our table is in it because I have plans for a dining room in the future but which now serves as a bedroom. I don't want to change the name mid-stream.
Of course we could just use the term dubbed by my 6-yr-old: "the waiting room".
My husband suggested calling it the Upper Room. Has a nice ring, don't ya think? Most friends suggest calling it the den but, to me, a den is a place with big fluffy bean bags for reclining, a huge television for late night popcorn movies, and a huge fireplace. It's like a bear's den. It's a big cozy place to relax.
But the...the...the room doesn't have a television. I won't allow it. And I don't want it to be a place of complete abandon. This room actually sets the tone for the whole house. It's a "first impression" room. I know you ladies will understand what I'm saying. My children think I'm being trite but it's a woman's prerogative to be trite. Right?
Like with the name. I thought I was being silly at first. Then I spoke to my cousin who just bought a new home and revealed that she had one room at the front of her house that...for goodness sakes!...didn't have a name! She was in a pickle with it. But, surely, a name would evolve at some point. Right? Right!
Luckily my cousin and I aren't the only ones creative that way.
But I'm still waiting for a name to evolve for my solitary room. And, as I wait, I looked the room over wondering what style it was anyway. Why should it matter? Because people ask! They really do.
"So how did you decorate it?"
Well...huh...I'm not sure. My oldest daughter noticed this immediately, as soon as the doors went up. The entrance door is a French-style white and all the trim is white. But dear hubby and I love a quaint country look and were quite taken with the doors we selected for the laundry and quest bathroom.
There's a story on the doors too. Let me sidetrack a bit. See the door on your far-right? That opens to the laundry room. The door even has a name!!! We don't say, "Open the laundry door." Instead, we say, "Open the girls' door."
Why?
When the doors came in they were unfinished. We stained them ourselves and the girls wanted so much to help out. I say grab them while they're eager beavers. The children helped tile the floor, paint the walls and trim, and stain the doors.
I'm all about exposure to new experiences so I let the girls help stain the laundry door while I blissfully stained the guest bathroom door. I was proud of them both. They were so eager and willing to help and they loved the job assigned to them. They swiped at the door and jabbered on in cordial workmenship until...
...until Daddy walked in and caught them sopping of the very bottom of the bucket and applying it repeatedly to the middle of the door. He didn't fuss but calmly said, "Okay, girls, I think you've done enough for now." He shooed them away and did his best to even out the stain. Probably no one but us notices that dark stain across the middle of the laundry door. But notice it we do, everytime we enter the room, everytime we open the door. The darker, uneven stain is like a youthful handprint on this room. And handprints are made to be remembered fondly. The girls are very proud of "our door."
And that's the tale about the wooden doors. Back to the decoration theme. My oldest daughter was quick to point out that the room was uneven. We had a contemporary up-dated entrance door blended in with rustic wooden deco, doors, and window seat. I didn't know what to call it. It was quite possible since I didn't read those sleek, fanciful, home-living magazines that I didn't know the correct terminology.
Enter my dear cousin once again. I was telling her that Princess said it didn't match and didn't have a "name" (ah, everything must have a "name" certainly) and my cousin just looked at me with a slight shrug and said, "Yes it does. It's called French Colonial."
Ah, bless her!
French Colonial. The name sounded lovely. These were two time periods and themes I knew I could work with. I love anything French and I love anything Colonial. It was a perfect fit and a perfect match. I am a proud French-Colonial mistress.
Then yesterday I was sweeping the ceramic tile and realized how homey the room was. My mother and grandmother concur. They have sat in the single chair and breathed, "I really like being in this room."
And I'm so glad because that is the first purpose of the room. I wanted it to be a place people like to just sit and be. It's a room I can decorate to greet each season. It's a room I can embrace with my three daughters. My oldest daughter has called it a "keeping room" and it is for "keeping". Certainly.
Still, we struggle for a name.
Music Room? ~ alas the piano remains in the living area
A library? ~ alas there are no books in it...yet!
A parlor? ~ perhaps a bit old-fashion though I do like the Jane Austen flair it evokes.
My husband jokingly said we could just refer to it as "the garage". Ha! Ha! said I.
Then yesterday I was fluttering through one of those "sleek, fanciful" home-living magazines. It's coming into fall again, you know. The magazine was one on cottage-decorating. It features Cottage Living and is defined by its small room-ness, its beauty of window seats, and state of simply being in a room. And it dawned on me! The best name for this room! is! the Cottage Room.
There can be no other term and, because it is a "cottage" I can enjoy the indulgence without feeling guilty. Afterall, it's just for a season really. And it's just one little room.
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Epilogue: Since writing this post, the room has officially gained the name "sitting room". It's a bit more cluttered, a bit more "lived" in. But it's still a very sweet room.
The girls and I were decorating it this past weekend with our signs of autumn and my 10 yr old asked: "Is this the only room we're decorating?"
Basically, yes. The other rooms are much too "lived in" for civilized niceties.
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